How the Assumptions You’re Making Are Shaping Your Life ✨

We explore how assumptions quietly limit choice and co-create the outcomes we fear, then practice shifting to a beginner’s mindset that opens presence, clarity, and real options. A tap class story reveals how slowing down reframes mastery, and we share practical ways to apply fresh eyes to hard moments.

• the inner block of assumption and how it narrows perspective
• energetic choices of I can’t, I have to, and I should
• a meeting example that shows self-fulfilling patterns
• the beginner’s mindset as a practical alternative
• the tap dance breakdown that unlocked clarity
• simple tools to reset before routines and tough talks
• questions to imagine different outcomes and act with choice

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Chapters

• 0:00 Naming The Inner Block: Assumptions
• 2:06 How Assumptions Shape Our Choices
• 3:41 The Meeting Example: Predicted Patterns
• 5:11 Shifting To A Beginner’s Mindset
• 6:39 The Tap Dance Aha
• 8:06 Wait, disregard previous marker
• 8:33 Applying Fresh Eyes To Your Life

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:23

Hey there. Today I want to just kind of help you draw some awareness around something that might be holding you back. It's an inner block that we all have. And the good news is that when we notice it, when we notice we're doing it, we can make necessary shift to experience a different perspective or a different view of the situation. And the inner block I'm talking about today is an assumption. An assumption is an expectation that because something has happened in the past, well, it'll happen again. The dictionary defines it as a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen without proof. And assumptions are one of the big four inner blocks that limit how we see things, how we experience things. Energetically, they are constructing a narrow lens that makes it difficult to imagine other possibilities other than the ones that you've already decided are going to be. Imagine. Imagine that you're heading into a meeting that you're required to attend. You've been there before, you've been to these kinds of meetings before, and there's data to support that previous meetings have been contentious. Certain players have acted predictably, or you haven't felt heard. When we operate from the assumption that things will be the same way, we limit our capacity for energetic choice. Going in with the assumption that you're not going to be heard might lead you to the energetic choice of I can't. I can't say anything I want without being criticized. So you hold back from sharing your ideas. If you're feeling defensive about it, if you're operating from I have to, you might say, I have to protect myself from being overrun. Immediately being defensive, stripping any possibilities for collaboration. Or maybe, maybe you're operating from I should. I should be better at expressing myself, shaming yourself into silence instead of practicing presence. You see how that works? When we're operating from an assumption, that's exactly what we see and what we find and what we co-create. It is perfectly natural to draw from what we already know, to make assumptions and mental shortcuts about what we don't. But the beginner's mindset offers another way. What if you didn't assume that things were going to be the same way? There's so much to glean from our childlike curiosity of that beginner's mindset. And I invite all of us to open our minds as if seeing something for the very first time. There's an opportunity in doing things repeatedly, in doing things that become part of your routine, to look at them differently. The learning is immense. You know, there was a time when I was in a tap dance class and I took a class that was much lower than the level that I was as an expert tap dancer. But I had heard that this teacher was wonderful and I had some time on my schedule. So I jumped in willingly. I'm always willing to jump in and learn. And what stands out in this teaching is that she had me doing a step that I've known how to do for decades without realizing that I was doing the step. Now, how did she do this? She did this by approaching it in a different way than I had in the past. She could have just said, do a triple time step, and I would have, on automatic pilot, known what that meant and assumed that I knew what she meant and done it. She did not do this. She broke it down in a different way. And because it was slow and because it was not my level, I looked at it differently. I was honing each sound. I was I was working on the mastery of clarity and I was just approaching the step differently. And it wasn't until I was dancing it that I had a an aha moment, which was this is just a a triple time step. But was it really? I share that with you because this learning a step that I'd known for so many years from a beginner's mindset, keep in mind, everybody was learning it for the first time, offered me so much possibility to see things differently and to experience things differently. Think of a situation in your own life where you've caught yourself assuming, because it's always been this way, it always will be. What possibilities might open up for you if you approached that situation with beginners' eyes? Curious, present, and willing to see it differently than the way you saw it when you assumed how it would be. What might change if you allowed yourself to imagine a different outcome? Everything is new if you choose to look at it through fresh eyes. You are different in every moment. The world is different in every moment. You have never been here before. Life is infinite, my friends. Do not assume anything. Everything's possible. I'm Lisa Hopkins. Stay safe and healthy, everyone, and remember to live in the moment.